Happiness Buffer

^z 14th August 2023 at 9:01am

Happiness isn't the only thing in life — but it is, or perhaps should be, an indicator that one is on a good path. Recently a friend pointed out an essay/post by Belle Beth Cooper, "10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier, Backed By Science" that offers a neat list:

  • Exercise more — 7 minutes might be enough
  • Sleep more — you'll be less sensitive to negative emotions
  • Move closer to work — a short commute is worth more than a big house
  • Spend time with friends and family — don't regret it on your deathbed
  • Go outside — happiness is maximized at 13.9°C
  • Help others — 100 hours a year is the magical number
  • Practice smiling — it can alleviate pain
  • Plan a trip — but don't take one
  • Meditate — rewire your brain for happiness
  • Practice gratitude — increase both happiness and life satisfaction

Good suggestions, though the pseudo-scientific false precision is distracting, unless it's meant to be humorous (unclear if so). Even better: Cooper's blog led to a thoughtful "About Us" page for her company, Buffer, which makes a scheduler program for delayed posting of social media items. The company philosophy and values as stated there is brilliant:

  1. Always Choose Positivity and Happiness
    • You always approach things in a positive and optimistic way
    • You never criticize or condemn team members or users
    • You never complain
    • You let the other person save face, even if they are clearly wrong
    • You are deliberate about giving genuine appreciation
  2. Default to Transparency
    • You take pride in opportunities to share our beliefs, failures, strengths and decisions
    • You use transparency as a tool to help others
    • You always state your thoughts immediately and with honesty
    • You share early in the decision process to avoid "big revelations"
  3. Have a Focus on Self Improvement
    • You are conscious of your current level of productivity and happiness, and make continual changes to grow
    • You have a higher expectation of yourself than Buffer does of you
    • You regularly and deliberately do things that make you feel uncomfortable
    • You practice activites and develop habits that will improve your mind and body
  4. Be a "no-ego" Doer
    • You don't attach your personal self to ideas
    • You let others have your best ideas
    • You approach new ideas thinking "what can we do right now?"
    • You are humble
    • You always ship code the moment it is better than what is live on our site — no matter what
  5. Listen First, Then Listen More
    • You seek first to understand, then to be understood
    • You focus on listening rather than responding
    • You take the approach that everything is a hypothesis and you could be wrong
    • You are suggestive rather than instructive, replacing phrases such as 'certainly', 'undoubtedly', etc with 'perhaps', 'I think', 'my intuition right now'
  6. Have a Bias Towards Clarity
    • You talk, code, design and write in a clear way instead of being clever
    • You over-communicate, repeating things more times than you would intuitively
    • You use more words to explain, even if it feels obvious already
    • You don't make assumptions, you instead ask that extra question to have the full picture
  7. Make Time to Reflect
    • You deliberately find time for reflection, because that's where your life-changing adjustments come from
    • You have a calm approach to discussions and ponder points in your own time
    • You find time to jump out of the trenches into the higher level thinking that will move the needle
    • You understand the value of patience and treat it as a muscle which needs practice to grow
  8. Live Smarter, Not Harder
    • You value waking up fresh over working that extra hour
    • You always aim to be fully engaged in an activity, or resting
    • You single task your way through the day
    • You are at the top of your game, as you focus on expanding capacity of your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual energy
    • You choose to be at the single place on Earth where you are the happiest, and most productive, and you are not afraid to find out where that is
  9. Show Gratitude
    • You regularly stop and are grateful for your circumstances
    • You are grateful for the work co-workers do to push the company forward and help you move faster
    • You approach customer conversations with humility and the knowledge that it's a privilege to serve these people
    • You have gratitude for platforms, tools and open source that laid the foundation for the possibility of the company: "If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants" — Isaac Newton

Wisdom!

cf. Optimist Creed (1999-04-16), How to Win Friends and Influence People (2008-05-17), Pursuit of Happiness (2008-11-19), Let Others Be Right (2012-12-31), ...) - ^z - 2013-12-22